Imagine the following situation. A man sees an attractive woman at a party. They talk and decide to have a few dates. After giving all the right signals for being a loyal, caring, trustworthy and relationship-oriented guy, he convinces her to spend the night. The next day he is gone and when she calls it is clear he doesn't want to speak to her....


Three months later, they meet again at another party. The guy has no memory of who the woman is and talks to her as if they meet for the first time. He even asks for her phone number because he thinks she's goodlooking and perhaps they could go for dinner.
I think you'll agree that unless the guy was a truly exceptional lover, his chances of a sequel are pretty slim. Those of actually building a relationship... are zero.
But when you think about it, this is exactly how many brands behave. They advertise, promote, seduce and sell to get us to trust and believe them. And once we have fallen for their charms, we get a box with product and a customer service number which doesn't really want to answer our calls.
And the next time we enter the market place, those without an expensive CRM system (*), have forgotten all about us, yet don't hesitate to make the same proposition all over again.
What amazes me is that, in spite of their behavior, these same brands still talk about customers "loving them" and "building a relationship." After all, if they really care, why do I only hear from them if things are wrong or of they want to sell me something new?
Why doesn't anyone call me 2 weeks after I bought that new TV to see if I figured out all the buttons? Why don't I ever get an invite for a chat from the guys who sold me my car until my lease contract is up for renewal? Why don't they call me after I have - metaphorically - spent the night?
If you run a brand and in the past 12 months have used words like "love" of "customer loyalty," I would like to challenge you to consider whether your actions reflect those of someone truly committed to building a lasting relationship, of they are the moves of someone looking for a quick score. If it is the latter, then don't be surprised if your customers start treating you as a "one night brand" in return.

(*) Most with expensive CRM systems only fare marginally better as they are typically the type who does remember the name, yet behaving like the guy who disappeared after the first night only to show up three months later with a bunch of flowers, instantly expecting the same treatment.